Mr hubster and i lived a carefree life before our little munchkin was born, every Friday was date night, Saturday was a sleep in followed by a late breakfast / brunch and Sunday was and still is all about Jesus and family.
Three months after the birth of our Son, Keston we had our first date night as parents.
We left our little munchkin, in the capable hands of our trusted Cousin, Jo-Ann.
It was suggested that our date be close to Jo-Ann's home encase we needed to get back to baby soonest, at the time Keston was breastfed but he would accept a bottle of expressed milk from another except me.
Jo-Ann assured us that she would be fine and if something happens that she would call us.
Our date commenced on an awkward note, i forgot the feeling to sit in the passenger seat along side Mr hubster, he opened the door for me and assisted me in, he still does this except i have a baby in my arms usually, i told him a minute into our alone time that i miss our baby already, he sighed and said " i do too, which is why we should have our time and head back soon."
We headed over to our favourite restaurant, close by to Jo's road, there is a lump in my throat and it feels weird to not have an infant chair and a baby with us. We had gone out as a family of three but it was rather complicated in the beginning, as new parents we constantly checked the baby while in the pram, if we ate anything, we would do so quickly to be ready for a nursing session or a cry moment. We barely enjoyed our time out together as three because everything was a rush and we were newbie parents, still learning our child.
At dinner, we met an uncle and aunt of mine who had no idea that i was pregnant and gave birth, they travel out a lot and due to life being so busy we barely met unless it was on these random occurrences. They invited us to join them, we felt the need to share a drink with them and head off to our own table, hello! its been three months since i sat with Mr hubster alone, however my uncle and aunt were so welcoming, encouraging and pleasant to be around, that we got to love and enjoy their company.
After dinner, we got to share a dessert from a Woolworths cafe opposite our restaurant, we chatted a bit about anything and everything we enjoy about each other and our new life, we laughed about diaper changing, Keston funny faces and cute moments.
On route to fetch our little one from Jo, we promised to try make time together once a month for date night or date day, we felt refreshed, better and ready to take on life together once we had a simple two hour dinner date.
Although our first date since baby arrival started off on a awkward and unplanned note dinner for two became a double date after bumping into a family couple and i learned to not hop into the back seat while my patient and charming Mr hubster opens the passenger door for me, our date ended off on a sweet note with a new beginning, to continue date day or date night once a month as it did a whole lot of goodness to our mind, soul and body.
Simple pleasures we can take for granted, like a chat with your best friend or a couple of kisses and hugs.
Enjoy every moment of loving your partner daily, before baby it was just the two of you. Remember that your marriage comes first! this is your first ministry, serving your husband, kids and home. Compliment your husband and allow him to be a father, Mr hubster and i do not always agree on things, i had to learn to allow him to be a father and trust that in certain situations he may know what is best especially after i have exhausted all options to soothe a crying baby, at times i wanted to crack while our baby cried in the arms of Mr hubster, i would run up to him and insist on taking the baby.
He would calmly say to me, " no thank you, babe i got this." I forgot how i would struggle alone with baby crying while Mr hubster was at work, now when i have help, i am being silly and rejecting it, in the most cruel way. Allow your husband to be a father, let him rock baby until quiet, let him try new techniques that you did not think of or succeed at doing with baby.
Remember to say thank you, smile and praise your husband good qualities.
Ensure you hug, kiss every day and spend a date day or date night together once a month, if we could afford it, we would have a date every week :) however after enduring the ever changing lifestyle, i have learned to make time in the week for just Mr hubster and i to chat, sometimes we so busy in the evenings at home and the only time to chat is the next day, during lunch at work, we have our evenings of movie night or coffee dates at home, i must say we have improved so much since the early stage of taking on parenthood 100% with zero time for each other.
After we picked up our baby, Jo explained how after she had fed Keston, he suffered a terrible wind, she managed to successfully get it out and in no time he was fast asleep in her arms, wrapped in his sweet blanket i took him and thanked Jo for the time out and safety of our child, there are very few people we would trust with Keston due to security and child theft, i may have offended a few people who had offered to look after my baby at some point since his arrival, more about that in a next blog post.
Night or day date's have become a once a month regular fun occasion for us as a couple, Jo is our trusted baby sitter, she enjoys Keston and loves how big he has grown since his first visit at her place as a three month old. As a couple it is so important to make time for each other, to not forget that it was just the two of you in the beginning and that your marriage comes first. Seek Godly counsel, chat to successful married family relatives or church elders. A good support system is essential, we felt alone at first, fearful to speak or ask advice, i honestly thought i would not make it to wife! i had forgotten how to wife or smile and admire my Mr husband's masculine attributes. All that has changed, we still have our disagreements but the love is there! as well as the time for each other.
I do hope you enjoyed the details on date night, parents, tips and updates below.
Much Love & Blessings Lana T xxx
*Tips*
Choose a trusted family friend or relative as your baby sitter
Go on your first date as parents soon, no need to wait three months like we did
Take time out for an hour or two together
A date can be anywhere together, coffee for two at Milky Lane or sharing a pizza at your favourite spot
Allow your child to develop a bond with the trusted baby sitter
Ensure you thank and make the baby sitter feel appreciated, bake a treat or drop off a chocolate
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