" One's own well-being and happiness" - As a wife at 24 i assumed it would be selfish to take time out for myself without Mr hubster around, i had already been with him since 16 and we spent most of our time together. Big mistake, i forgot about time out when two people live together, share household chores and argue occasionally over spilled milk.
Mr hubster and i eventually settled on doing things we like alone, once in a while i would take time out to have a coffee date with a friend, get my nails done or bake in the sun by our pool area with a good book. Mr hubster enjoys motor-mechanics and riding his bike, allowing him to take a ride with his brother Bradley or friend Voller made him more relaxed and happy. I also felt a sense of freedom and ease after taking time out for myself.
Marriage is no walk in the park, it requires two people to die to themselves daily, forgive easily, laugh more and never go to bed angry. Taking time out for ourselves once in a while gave us the freedom we needed to explore our own interests and enjoy each other more.
Fast forward to parenthood, as a new Mommy i felt guilty to leave my little baby and hubby to soak in some me time, my heart broke to now leave two people i love so much to paint my nails or attend a fitness class at the gym. Mr hubster still took some time out to train in the morning daily and ride his bike now and then but i was stubborn and rejected everyone that offered to assist me for an hour with baby to have some time alone.
I was abdomen to be the best mom in the world to my little baby, i gave all my time to look after him, clean the house and attend to laundry plus wife duties and then came a huge crash.
It must of hit me like a tone of bricks, after 4 months of staying at home, i had not lost any weight as i ate anything and everything to breastfeed and stay alive, i had no time to gym or cook healthy because i was consumed with being the perfect wife and mom.
I would clean the house everyday, do the laundry, cook the dinner and have little melt downs in the bathroom asking God is this my life forever, i told no one except Mr hubster who insisted i ignore the dirty house during the day and unpeeled potatoes for dinner to allow him to assist me once he is home from work.
After a massive cry one day, i could not manage this daily rush to be a perfect human and indulged in a little me time, now "me time" can be anything as a mama, a simple walk around the block or a cup of tea alone can be all she needs to feel a bit better.
I had no idea i was setting myself up for failure by not giving myself some care and time out.
I would stare at myself in the mirror, looking at the fat person i had become from eating junk, my skin was terrible and i was still wearing maternity clothes as i could not fit in my regular cute outfits. I was consumed with guilt to take anytime out to care for myself or to step away from my mom and wife duties.
It was after the massive cry when i attempted a bit of self love, i started to cleanse and tone my face twice a day and fell in love with my skin appearance a week later, each afternoon once Mr hubster got home from work, i would take a walk around the block to start my exercise routine slowly. My breasts were painfully big, hard sometimes but i would squeeze into my training tops and sport leggings to encourage the sports side of me to resurface.
Not everyday was easy, some days Mr hubster had to force me out the door and remind me to take a moment for myself to relax and get in touch with "Lana."
A few weeks later, i got in touch with a few mama friends, Simone K a sweet Herbalife rep, HR professional and mama of three inspired me to try out a few fitness classes with her and include a natural shake by Herbalife that is safe to consume while breastfeeding.
Simone also briefed me on eating a bit healthier and introduced me to "Hulk" juice, a green smoothie blend packed with vitamins, nutrients and a whole lot of goodness.
Yes eating the greens can be a challenge, especially the taste! so i was invited to create my own green smoothie.
After a few months of indulging self love and care i transformed to a mama unicorn and stunning new me, although i am not a perfect mom or wife, i strive to be the best i can be everyday. I will share the details of my transformation in my next blog post - Self Love (Part Two) and a few of my favourite easy healthy dinner time recipes that Mr hubster and i enjoy.
I do hope you enjoyed the details on our Self Love - Part One, updates below.
Much Love & Blessings Lana T xxx
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